TO ENGAGE OR NOT TO ENGAGE - Dr Ninad Baste
“ I have these memories coming back to me. I remember the words she said and the way she shouted at me. It seems fresh every time. The images and words keep coming back to trouble me. I start feeling angry and restless. I replay the events and imagine what all I could have said to her. There are so many things that I could have said, but then, I just could not. If only I could say those things and find my closure". J was recollecting the events of a traumatic breakup that had happened 6 months ago. We had been meeting for 6weeks and this was our third meeting. Me: Does it help you? This replaying the events and giving your answers back. J: At times it does! But then it comes back. Me: The past 6months have these thought, images and your response to them decreased in frequency or intensity? J: Not much change…at times I feel it is only getting bad. Me: I can understand your hurt and how you feel about the way the things unfolded. You have all the right reasons to feel sad, angry ...